Rule of Five.

Rule of Five.

At the beginning of the year, the company I currently work for asked Justin Prince, a motivational speaker/life-hacker/entrepreneur, to come speak with us about our goals and setting the intentions for the year. Periodically over the last two years they have invited him to do web calls with us to inspire and motivate us in our daily lives, both professionally and personally.

Of all the speakers that my employers, past and present have ever hired, I resonate with JP the most. He is the only one I have ever sought out online and regularly follow because I genuinely believe in his content and messages.

What he shared with us at the beginning of 2019, wasn’t by any means a deeply profound and earth shattering message, but it was something that triggered a “Why didn’t I think of that?” response. It’s so simple, yet so effective. It’s a good reminder that the steps to success don’t have to be massive and complex. They can and usually are rather simple and easy to manage. You just need to be open to them.

Just Remember the 3 C’s.




Without confidence there is no commitment. You have to believe in yourself and your business. I know, I know, easier said than done when you struggle with the voices and experiences of your past, constantly nattering in your mind’s ear, telling you that you are not good enough or worthy enough. But, confidence is key in life. You are a boss, a Goddess, a freaking super star – so own it! Rock what ya got!

Before anything can truly happen, you will need to make the courageous decision to take the first leap of faith. All great movements in history began with a courageous decision. Think Elizabeth Stanton and Lucretia Mott with the Women’s Rights Movement giving us the right to vote Or Tarana Burke and Alyssa Milano with the recent #metoo Movement of 2018. Without these women taking a stand and casting aside all their doubts and fears, none of these impactful changes and messages would have occurred or been shared. I personally would not have the courage to begin the healing process from my own #metoo experiences if weren’t for these women. You never know the impact you will have on someone else’s life if you never take action.

And last but not least, the one I struggle with the most is committing and staying committed. I crave instant gratification and anything that takes a long time to complete or show results begins to fade and be forgotten. If you can’t, don’t, or won’t stick to your goals, plans and visions, you won’t succeed and you can’t expect anyone else to commit to your ideas either. Stick to a task until it sticks to you.

Fortunately, there are ways to help you achieve the three C’s. Sarah Swain, my mentor through the Unstuck Program, recommends Goal Mapping. And I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this. As a very visual person, I need to literally see my destination. Which, has never been an issue. I see what I want as clear as day and envision myself living in it very easily. However, I am not very good at finding the right path to get there and often take the longest, most scenic and difficult route. Goal mapping allows me to lay out all the steps I need to get to where I want to go in a clear and concise way. I can see what is coming and prepare for it. I know ahead of time that I have a pretty heavy week of courses so maybe going out for drinks with the girls isn’t the best decision (I am useless with a hangover! I have no idea how I was a functioning human in my party days). By knowing what you want and bringing clarity to your vision, you gain power. You are officially in the driver seat and in control.

As any tradesman, or surgeon or artist will tell you, you also need to have the right tools. A surgeon cant walk into an operating wielding only a butter knife and perform surgery. She needs nurses, and an anesthesiologist and surgical equipment designed for the task at hand. She needed to study and read and learn everything she possibly could about the person and the goal she needed to achieve in that room. So, you need tools as well. Not just for business, but in everyday life too. Read great books. I am in love with Sarah Knights series of self help books with her cheeky humor and potty mouth. They inspire me to embrace my own trucker mouth and just be myself. The world will adjust. Listen to inspiring information. Podcasts are amazing! I am genuinely addicted to The Great Canadian Woman Podcast. So much powerful content is waiting to be devoured! But, what I believe to be the most important tool you will ever gift yourself, is to surround yourself with great people. When I began to eliminate those who left me feeling exhausted, defeated and unworthy, and began replacing them with people to lifted me up, spread light into my life and encouraged my dreams – even when they didn’t fully understand them – my life took on a whole new trajectory. I am still trying to comprehend the success I have experienced in just a few short months!

Through everything, you still need to be focused and consistent. Remove the distractions. This could mean you need a designated work space, or putting your cell phone on airplane mode. I personally need to shut down my phone and hide away in the house at my dining room table to get things done. And that’s OK – multitasking is not a thing. It does not exist.

Removing distractions may also mean saying no. Say no to people who don’t support you. Say no to events and activities that don’t serve you just because you feel you should be there, especially when you really don’t want to go. Being consistent in what you do and putting aside time is golden. Make it a routine. You can’t run a marathon if you aren’t consistent in your training to build muscle and endurance! Whether you realize it or not, life is a marathon. You will need that stamina and endurance to cross that finish line, where ever it may be.

Stop limiting yourself! Humans are the only species on the planet who intentionally set limits to their success. We tell ourselves repeatedly that we can’t do this or that because we aren’t smart enough or fast enough. But if you think about the creatures in the wild, or the plants that surround us, and ask: How fast can the fastest cheetah run? The answer is: As fast as she can. How tall can the tallest tree grow? As tall as it can. There are no limits to your success unless you tell yourself there is.

A year ago I would have told you there is no way I would be a published author. No one would ever want to read what I write or hear what I have to say. With the right people, the right tools and removing my limiting beliefs, here I am published with Golden Brick Road Publishing house in the latest book, Dear Time, Are you on my side?, with two more beginning the editing process and a handful of articles in The Great Canadian Woman blog! I promise you, I am not done and have no intentions of slowing down.

John C Maxwell, the Guru of Leadership with over 100 books written, says he contributes his success to the Rule of Five. John follows these 5 rules everyday, without fail, in order to accomplish his goals in leadership and writing:

Reads – everything

Thinks – about what wants to write

File – quotes and phrases

Questions – everything

Writes – his stories, lessons, chapters etc.

As I sat dreaming about my business, writing, and self growth goals, I found this to be very inspirational and set out to create my own Rule of Five for daily practice. Again, requiring instant gratification, I also put these into a daily goal tracker to check off each day allowing me to see my daily and weekly successes. When I see my week full of check marks and happy faces, I get that same blissful feeling my coffee and cream gives me in the morning.

My everyday Rule of Five for 2019, for intentional living and success this year are:

Study – everything I can related to writing, business, self growth and wellness.

Listen – to motivational and positive podcasts (like The Great Canadian Woman or The Uncommon Woman)

Write – whether it’s a chapter a day, a poem, a quote, a sentence or in my journal.

Sweat – moving my body to feel good physically, mentally, emotionally. Whether it’s a walk, a run, a workout at the gym or home, yoga or weights.

Focus – remembering I can only do one thing at a time and it deserves 100%.

You are the author to your own story. You decide what goes onto the pages of your Book of Life.

What do you want it to say?

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